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"Any idea when you're speaking to Haim?" an inquiry reads. "My request was to ask if I can join as their extra sister."

There is only one problem: The sender also longs to be the Haims' fourth member. What's more, we are far from alone. Several famous admirers have publicly petitioned for the position.

It's clear an irresistible appeal is happening. Sisters Este, Danielle and Alana launched their musical journey doing sets at neighborhood delis with their family. Today, they are multi-time Grammy contenders.

Similar to the best ensembles, they're a close gang. Their music videos often feature them marching in unison down the streets of Los Angeles. On stage, they jam with such unfettered happiness you inevitably think, "I wish to be part of that, too."

"How often on tour that young girls came up to us and said, 'Watching you live, I bought a drum kit'," remarks Alana, the youngest of the Haim siblings. "It is the ultimate honor. That's an award in itself. We've done our job if we can motivate young girls to form a group."

"So everyone are welcome to be the fourth part of the family."

Historic Milestone

The group are connecting from their homes, where they're taking a pause after an extensive tour in promoting their latest album, I Quit.

They're currently processing the news it's been in the running for a top rock honor at the Grammys – with Haim the first all-female band ever in consideration for the award.

"I tune into the announcements every year, so it kind of feels like a surreal movie when your name is read out," says Alana. "I needed to phone my sisters to say, 'Did I hear this right or am I imagining things'?"

The importance of the nomination resonates with the sisters.

"We truly set out to make a rock record this time, so it's a major step," adds Alana. "Yet we're just grateful for the pioneers that came before us."

Heartbreak and Laughter

The record was born from a time of transition. All three sisters were single, and the music explores that odd liminal space where you're glad to be free, but not yet ready to start anew.

The themes detail departures and farewells. The sisters want love, but not the kind of love they've experienced. You can hear them figuring out in the moment who they aspire to be.

"I adore way of putting it, yes," agrees Danielle. "I Quit is like a personal statement. You have to consciously practice shutting out the criticism and saying, 'It doesn't matter to me what people think'."

Evolution of Music

That recent confidence demanded a new sound – more organic and direct than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who co-produced the album, that started with the drums.

"Drums are such a detailed thing, and I focus so intensely about it," she emphasizes.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the subject of our memoir," laughs Alana. "I've said it, our albums won't commence until we find the ideal drum sound."

Experiences and Shared Laughter

The trio's honesty inspired the album's promotional campaign, where the sisters revealed some of their romantic horror stories.

One man broke up with Este over a medical consideration. Alana told a story of flying to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a high five at midnight.

"Experiencing these breakups, you just feel like there's no hope," explains Alana. "So to be able to laugh at those stories and hear others tell you even crazier stories, it's so amazing."

A Confident Path

You can clearly sense a shift in the band. Today, Haim are more certain of their position in the rock pantheon.

They're festival headliners, with chart-topping albums and an international following.

However the band will always be their primary priority.

"My sisters and I have been making music since I was little," shares Alana. "It's like no alternative that we were meant to do. And I'm really thankful we've reached this point and we're still making music."